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It is essential for people to become aware of themselves in order to become more potent and fulfilled on all levels of their lives. Try some of these exercises from an experienced Transformational Coach.
Communicate
Written by Masi Alessandro
You know it's so weird that kids can try to explain things to adults - and guess what?! - they become frustrated by OUR lack of understanding!
It turns out: the young ones weren't far off; after awhile what they insisted with certainty turned out to make sense after all. It was simply that spontaneous youth met 'set-in-their-ways' adulthood and couldn't communicate because their viewpoints were different. It was as if two mobile phones couldn't make themselves understood because they were connected to different networks. Now with mobiles the answers were easy to fix, with people - not so easy. Though people are much more complicated than mobiles, their messages to each other should not be. Yet we tend to complicate our communications by attaching emotions and subtext to our messages, which send subliminal additional messages which becomes confusing - especially to a bystander who only hears words, not the inferences in them.
It is essential that two people learn to communicate with each other clearly as their relationship builds and deepens, or they will have to pay a lot of money to a third party (namely a therapist or lawyer) to clear up misunderstandings as the relationship begins to sour!
Mis-communications leading to over-the-top reactions - leading to further misunderstandings are the most common topics for our favourite comedy TV shows!
Hey... maybe if we watch enough sitcoms, we'll see how silly we can sometimes be, ...and not fight so much!
When people ask why you paid extra for the big cable program package, you'll reply with a knowing yet ironic grin: "I'll do anything to save my marriage."!
Sounds funny, but there's more than a touch of truth in that. When people get 'hot under the collar', the last thing you want to do is push too hard about their problems (which in most cases everyone insists don't exist). So humour is a clever way of relieving tension and an even more clever way to point out your mistakes in a funny and indirect way instead of comments you make to try to help the situation which are often taken the wrong way. When we start to see what mistakes we might be making at arm's length in hysterical situations like a sitcom, we may realise a very important point: that, like the sitcom, we, in our real lives, may just be making a mountain out of a molehill.
...and by coming to these realisations, we teach ourselves ways to prevent misunderstandings and eventual mayhem in our relationships which could only lead to more serious problems, but to communicate better with significant others leading to stronger more rewarding bonds.
After all, what's hysterical on your favourite sitcoms, can be nightmarish in real life.
Homework for this week: Watch your favourite television shows putting yourself in some of them, just to see what personal insights might arrive - even more fun with a friend who knows you well and may have insights of there own.
Till next week all...
For information about one-to-one or group sessions contact masi@brightonesque.com.
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